The last couple of days have been extremely over-whelming with all the attention, love (mostly) and support I’ve received from the people around me and I will always be very grateful for every bit of it. This is going to be a completely self-introspective post and therefore parts of it might seem completely out of the blue, but I really feel like this is necessary and because it is something I’ve been wanting to share for some time now. I don’t think I ever grew up believing in the importance of self-worth, but over the years I’ve come to learn the importance of the same and I’m glad I did. But something that still bothers me is the way we define beauty standards for ourselves. The way we define beauty for ourselves is sometimes also the way we learn to value ourselves. But the definition is so limited and perhaps sometimes so wrong, especially because of how we are made to perceive beauty in terms of what we watch on our television sets or our social networking feeds or the books that we read, that it needs to change. I’ve mostly grown up with people telling me how dark-skinned I am or how my hair is never perfect or that my demeanor isn’t exactly the way it should be, which for that matter has never bothered me and hopefully never will. But I’m also aware of how it does affect a lot of people out there and that this very fact also needs to change.
Black hair, white skin, abs and long legs aren’t what ‘the perfect beauty’ stands for and never will. That perfect selfie you’ve been drooling over on Instagram is perhaps the best picture out of the hundred pictures that person took from that perfect angle with that perfect filter. Come out of your little shell and let yourself be a part of the world of possibilities. Value yourself with the number of great books you’ve read over your Whatsapp texts, or the number of lives you could change for the better over the number of guys/girls you slept with (do it because you want to, not because you want to tell the world how cool your life is over theirs). You are perfect the way God made you and you don’t have to compare yourself with others (even though we’re all guilty of it).